And I’m not sure what profitable situation you refer to when Westerners, whether knowlingly or not, participate in when they adopt from Asia. If someone is getting rich within the adoption system, that would be abhorrent. When we saved, then spent the equivalent of a new car for each adoption we completed, we assumed (ok-maybe we are trusting idiots-but we are like that) that we were carrying expenses for people involved in the administration, the transportation, the caretaking and the healthcare aspects of our babies’ lives.

I’d love to meet you some day. You and your daughter both. If you do or don’t want to hear about our imperfect marriage, our overwhelming ordinariness, our supremely harrowing decades of raising and then stepping up to salvage one VERY feisty child’s future when they went way off the rails…we don’t care one way or the other. I’m just trying to tell you that we were just tap dancing as fast as we could to the agency rules when it came our turn to become parents. We never wanted to swoop in and steal some poor girl’s baby and skulk off. We always wondered so much about her circumstances. I’ve always told my kids we did not know much really. I said I’d help my kids search if that’s what they wanted some day. It’s what Moms do. You know that-I see it in your story. Write if you want. Thanks for listening. Don’t tell my kids I wrote..they’re still in the everything mortifies them years. Good luck with your career. We’re in the book if you ever come to Raleigh NC area. Prawdzik, Wake Forest. Thanks Peggy P